Thursday, December 3, 2009

My Social Handicap

I was eating lunch with BFF Team a couple of days ago, and everyone else was talking about how they were so social in high school that they barely made it through. Of course, I was nothing like that. I was so bookish in high school that I hardly had a social life.

The thing is that I really do enjoy being around people (whether family or friends). I don't enjoy the social scene admittedly. Really, I wish everyone wanted to hang out in libraries or coffee shops or something like that. I like to be around the same people and am not a big fan of meeting new people. Maybe that is part of my problem?

I am beginning to think, though, that I need to figure out whatever my social issue is with meeting men. I even think it is wierd that I haven't been dating for so long, but I don't really know what to do about that! In the past, when I've met someone it always just happened, but it is really not happening to me anymore.

It seems like everyone else my age is out of one relationship and immediately on to the next. I am totally mystified by how that happens. It is funny, because in some ways I understand things easily. I get things like philosophy and physics and literature. I can't seem to understand how to meet someone and build a relationship.


mrsgee said...

from what i have read of your blog, i think that you might find these two books helpful. my mom sent them to me in college when i was struggling with finding a quality person to have a relationship with.
When God Writes Your Love Story by Eric and Leslie Ludy can be found at:

The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Committment to Your Mate by Gary Chapman can be found at:

Martina said...

This is just to tell you that following your blog encourages me to go on with my own. I´m a teacher too, of different age and a place but still. Thank you!

Anonymous said...

I'm 25/m and I could have written this post myself about meeting women.

I promise you, introvert (if that's what you consider yourself) isn't a bad word or a weakness, and there are plenty of us out there, it's just that other people yell louder so it seems like they're everywhere. :)

I have the best luck when I'm up front and confident about it. "I like sitting and talking in coffeeshops, I don't especially like noisy bars, and sometimes I just want to do something quiet or by myself. If that doesn't work for you, I'm sure you'll make someone very happy, it just won't be me. :)"

ms.understood said...

Thanks everyone for the comments. I'll try this advice. Thanks also for following my blog=).