Monday, January 10, 2011

Three Letter Word

Oh, here we go! I've wanted to blog about this topic for a while, but the topic never came up. If you want, you can pretend that I am saying this to you coyly over a candlelit dinner, because I am talking about SEX.

I was watching OWN (yeah, I like it okay--I'm corny like that), and I saw this story the Oprah show was thinking of running about the 30 year-old virgin. They couldn't agree about whether being a thirty year old virgin meant there was something wrong with you. Finally, they concluded that in America it is very odd.

Okay, I'm not going to say that it is the norm--yes, I know that it is not. I just think that having traditional views about sex doesn't mean there is something wrong with you. Aside from my religious beliefs, I look at it like this: choices about romance and sex say a lot about what you really want out of a relationship.

I was raised with really traditional views on sex. I remember my mom telling me that if I had sex outside of marriage then someday I would meet my husband and have to tell him about my past and it would be hard. Based on my experience, it is going to be a lot harder explaining to him that he's it.

Alright, time to close with a personal story for your amusement. One time I was out drinking with friends and this guy was coming on to me. "You really resistant to alcohol," he told me. "No, I'm really resistant to sex I don't want to have," I told him. I like to get to the point.


Rachel said...

ha, good story!! And I want to add that you're not alone in your stance, and I say good on ya!

This reminds me of a Gilmore Girls episode in which a preacher tells Rory that if she has sex before marriage, she will have given away her "gift" to her future husband. When husband does arrive on the scene, all she'll be able to give him is a sweater.

I promise I will not always comment with references to TV shows.

ms.understood said...

I loved Gilmore Girls too. I am exactly the age of the Rory character and I grew up in a single parent family. I always really identified with her!